In our Relationship Compatibility Soul Reading, we explore several dimensions of compatibility: Attraction Factors, Core Factors and Metaphysical Factors.
Attraction Factors are qualities that bring you together. They include:
- Life Style, the way you live and get along
- Sexuality, your sexual chemistry
- Emotionality, your emotional bonding, support and love for one another
- Shared Interests, the interests that you share in common with your partner. Optimally, you should share between 40 to 60% of your interest matrix to prevent living in very different worlds, or alternately, being overly preoccupied with one another.
Core Factors are qualities that cement your relationship. They include:
- Shared Values, the beliefs about living, the world, and religion that you share in common. If you are raising children together, it would be best if you can share above 80% of your values matrix to avoid conflict.
- Shared Vision for the Future, comprising your goals, aspirations, and dreams that include your partner. For a long-term relationship, you should optimally share above 80% of your choice matrix with your partner.
Metaphysical Factors are aspects of your spirituality and your Superconscious mind that influence your relationship. These include:
- Affinity, which refers to whether you vibrate spiritually to the same or compatible rays, whether you are on the same spiritual path, whether you share a common spiritual vision. Affinity may bring you together even if you are not otherwise compatible through attraction or core factors. [See the article in our Library, “On Affinity” for more information about this metaphysical factor.]
- Destiny arises from the causal body. Operation of this center indicates that you have been predestined to be together. This may indicate former incarnations with your loved one, with shared issues that you need to work out. It also means that karmic elements from the unconscious have brought you together, and you will have to work through these to fulfill your relationship.
The attraction factors of lifestyle, sexuality, emotionality and shared interests draw the partners together initially, but are not sufficient to sustain a lasting relationship with core and essential compatibility factors. The core factors of shared values and life direction determine whether the partners will stay together. The essential factors of affinity and destiny reveal the impact of the innate spirituality of each partner, and whether this influence supports or hinders the partners staying together.
Some of the elements that make up each of these compatibility factors are listed below.
| Activity | Preference for diurnal or nocturnal activity |
| Organization | Highly organized (neat) or disorganized (messy) |
| Space | Preference for spacious living areas or confined spaces |
| Relationship | Gregarious (needs to be with people) or prefers solitude |
| Communication | Talkative or quiet and withdrawn |
| Financial | Spends money readily or saves money |
| Character | Self-expressive or restrained and shy |
| Basic attraction | Relative distance on the sexual mandala from the partner, conditioning strength of sexual attraction |
| Romance | Preferences for grooming, appearance, courtship, kissing and foreplay |
| Libidinal strength | Frequency of desire for coitus |
| Sexual liberation | Relative freedom to express sexual fantasy or inhibited |
| Role adoption | Preferences for initiating sexual behavior (dominant) or receiving it (submissive) |
| Breadth of acceptable sexuality | Openness to wide experimentation or monogamy; admits a wide range of partners and sexual lifestyles in an open relationship or restricts the relationship to a faithful commitment to the partner |
| Basic sexual identity | How each partner sees themselves sexually (e.g., monogamous heterosexual, promiscuous heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, or other type of sexual identity) |
| Basic Affection | Needs a lot of touching and demonstrations of affection or does not like to be touched |
| Self worth | Needs to be reassured that the partner loves them and that they are liked and appreciated or feels aloof and self-contained |
| Dominance | Seeks to control the partner's behavior or allows the partner to function autonomously |
| Trust | Jealous and suspicious or trusting and believing that the partner is faithful and honest |
| Decision-making | Makes their own decisions and knows what they want or believe or dependent on the partner to make decisions |
| Identity | Sense of identity is defined by being in a relationship or sense of identity is found outside of a relationship |
| Relational Orientation | Co-dependent (absorbed in the partner's life and issues) or Narcissistic (absorbed in one's own Self) |
| Avocation | Preferences for hobbies or pastimes |
| Recreation | Preferences for sports or exercise |
| Travel | Preferences for vacation or likes to stay at home |
| Culture | Preferences for cultural events, entertainment, music, dancing and art |
| Community | Preferences for involvement in academic, political, religious, civic or charitable groups and involvement in the wider community |
| Social | Sense of obligation to family, relatives, or friends; commitments to participate in the lives of other people |
| Creativity | Personal expression of inspiration through artistic, literary, dramatic, or other creative outlet |
| Manners | Rules for public behavior, etiquette and courtesy |
| Personal Standards | Rules for personal or private behavior; evaluation of achievement or attainment of goals |
| Quality | Rules for evaluating the quality of products and performance; grades or ratings |
| Moral Criteria | Rules for evaluating right and wrong behavior, and basic character |
| Parenting | Rules for raising a family |
| Political Values | Rules for evaluating correct decisions for governing an institution, a municipality, province, state or nation |
| Religious Values | Rules from religious teaching and study of scriptures that inform values, belief and behavior |
| Life Priorities | Relative match of partners' priorities and dreams |
| Children | Relative match of plans and dreams for having and raising children together |
| Education and Career | Relative match of partners' educational and career aspirations; willingness to accommodate the partner's needs to prepare for or change careers |
| Social and Cultural Inclusion | Relative inclusion of the partner in plans for travel, recreation, or for family and social events |
| Acquisition | Relative agreement on acquisition of housing, family transportation, appliances, and household items |
| Financial Planning | Relative agreement on spending, saving and investing money |
| Essential Values | Relative agreement on implementing family rules and religious values in the family |
| Physical-Etheric | Compatibility of Rays (3rd or 7th) |
| Emotional | Compatibility of Rays (6th, 2nd, or 4th) |
| Mental | Compatibility of Rays (5th, 3rd, or 7th) |
| Personal | Compatibility of Rays (1st through 7th) |
| Soul | Compatibility of Rays (1st through 7th) |
| Spiritual | Whether partners identify with the same spiritual essence, nucleus of identity, or ensouling entity |
| Relative Spiritual Evolution | The relative distance in nodal points between the spiritual evolution of each partner |
| Opportunity | Circumstances of each partner's life that allows them to come together |
| Strength of Desire | Relative sexual attraction that leads the partners to romantic involvement |
| Attachment | Emotional needs that draw the partners together |
| Social Rapport | Sharing common interests permits easy conversation and spending time together in mutually enjoyable activities |
| Moral Agreement | Having common values and religious beliefs establishes a common framework for evaluation and world view |
| Manifestation | Activation of the forces of Creation through the use of will, intention, suggestion, affirmation, faith or prayer that brings the partners to each other |
| Unconscious Mind | The karmic desires and fantasies that influence choices and motivation. These karmic influences may arise from a preordained karmic plan, the awakening of karmic impressions from other life times, or a pre-incarnational decision to be with the partner. |
Whether you are selecting your life partner or evaluating someone you have begun to date, you may benefit from contemplating these 49 elements of compatibility. If you are able to assess these factors, you may be able to make a better decision about who is worthy to keep in your life, and who is genuinely not right for you.
The Relationship Compatibility Soul Reading may be valuable if you are having difficulty intuiting the metaphysical factors that impact your relationship. As some people are unable to determine upon what Rays their partners resonate and the relative distance of their ensouling entities, a Relationship Compatibility Soul Reading may help you shed light on these factors to help you understand your partner better and to inform your date and mate selection.
